How to Use Handcuffs in Bed - Our Top 5 Handcuffed Sex Positions

For many, BDSM may sound like a daunting idea. But if you are feeling the effects of boredom in the bedroom or just a little curious about playing with power in the bedroom, handcuffs are a really simple and fun way to start in the wonderful world of bondage and to discover a new level of pleasure and play.

However, whether you are learning to let it go or to be the one in charge, there are a few key things to know to ensure you’re getting the most of handcuffed sex and doing it safely. 

In this post, we will tell you how to introduce handcuffs in the bedroom and show our top 5 sex positions you can try to explore light bondage.

Dipping your toe in bondage

First things firsts, any form of BDSM must be based on absolute trust and effective communication between partners.

People think that any kind of bondage play involves abuse and pain. But in reality, BDSM covers everything from role-playing to spanking to tying up your partner or just teasing them, oftentimes with a sex toy or bondage accessories. As long as it is consensual, couples can go as heavy as they want, but you don't need to go all in to add a level of erotic energy to sex play with your partner.

Before you start exploring it, talk to your partner about each other's limits and discuss the scene in advance to lay out what is going to happen.

Another important thing is to have a safe word. That means that anytime one says the word, whatever is going on must stop immediately, no questions asked. Remember, trust and communication is paramount to avoid any misunderstandings.

Choose a safe-word with no sexual relevance. Common words like "stop", "that hurts" or "no" is not the best as in bondage all this can be part of the fantasy domination and submission. 

Picking your Handcuffs

If you are convinced it is time to get your toes in the bondage world, a set of handcuffs or restraints should be the first item in your bondage collection. In our store, you will find a range of cuffs for couples willing to explore bondage and all our products are delivered in discreet plain brown packaging so you can shop online for sex toys and bondage accessories from the comfort of your home - no weird looks from the next person in the sex shop.

Handcuffs are easy to use, need minimal storage space, most are comfortable, durable and are available in varying colours, style and materials. Although it seems to be a pretty straight forward buying decision, there are a few things you need to keep in mind.

Avoid buying those cheap metal cuffs because they can cut your wrists and you want to avoid them at all costs.

The next question is if you want handcuffs to lock and determine the possibility of escape. Some people get excited about the idea of losing control of the situation, but if that sounds too much for you, a velcro, buckle or tie cuff would be a better fit.

Plan ahead on how and where you want to use them and the sex positions with handcuffs that are on the table. Will it be attached to the bedposts? Do you want them attached together? Some people use them just as a fashion accessory, but for using as a restraint you should think of the possibilities before making a decision.

Our recommendation for the newbies is to consider a beginner’s bondage set.

Top 5 Sex Positions with Handcuffs

Be they silken and luxurious or plastic and fuzzy, here are 5 top handcuffed sex positions you can try to spice things up in the bedroom.

1.Up in Arms

The position we typically picture when we image sexy uses for handcuffs or restraints; using one cuff on each wrist, the cuffs are used to tie both hands together. 

They can be threaded through the headboard (if you have the right kind of bed) or something else, like the banisters of a staircase, with the restrained partner lying on their back for the missionary sex position and full access to the front of the body, or on their stomach for access to the back of the body, prompting the doggy style position.

2.Free Rein

Has the wrong style of a bed been holding you back from your handcuffed sex? This rear-entry position is just the thing! 

It’s easiest to begin in a kneeling doggy-style position, then have the partner on the bottom have their wrists cuffed behind them. When using adjustable ties, cinching them tight keeps your partner leaning forward yet unable to support their weight with their arms. If you leave the length between cuffs a bit looser, the partner on top can hold on it as though they were reins for a truly wild ride.

3.Sealed with an X-OH

If you (or your partner) want to be completely at the mercy of the other for intense pleasure like edging, this can be achieved by adding another pair of restraints to the ankles, similarly looped through a bedpost so that the body appears in an X shape. Completely immobile, a blindfold and earplugs can be added so that the only (heightened) sense they experience will be touch.

4.From Bottom to Top

Are you interested in experimenting as a Dominant with your partner? Whether you’re on the bottom in a position like missionary or riding high in a cowgirl position, the cuffed partner can use the band or chain connecting their cuffs around the back of the neck of the top partner to put slight pressure around their neck or pull them close for passionate kisses (or nibbles) on the neck and shoulder.

This position allows partners to experience different roles as those who are usually more dominant can have a little taste of what it is like to be slightly submissive. It is a great opportunity to try different power-plays between partners.

5. A Little Tied Up Right Now

This is a fantastic position for total submission if you have 2 sets of restraints. The receiving partner lies on their stomach as you handcuff both their hands behind their back. Next, you cuff one of their ankles, and then before cuffing the other, loop the middle strand around the band of the cuffs placed on their wrists. You can leave them loose for more comfort, or wind the intersecting bands for a tighter ‘hogtied’ position.

Excited about spicing up your bedroom play introducing BDMS into your relationship? Then visit our wide collection of bondage and play accessories to select yours and let us know how it works for you.

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